Girl, No One Is Coming To Save You.

Learning independence is a MF.

Many women learn independence at their own pace, and when you are someone who has been physically taken care of at the beginning of your life(relying on people for basic needs), all the way until twenty-two years old, it’s hard to detach from the support you’ve always had when you were younger. This year, I’m twenty-three, and I now feel like I am learning to be comfortable in my own independence. I’ve always been emotionally independent, but physically, within my environment, such as housing, transportation, or just basic day-to-day decisions, I never really had to worry about anything. Being taken care of is what I’m used to, and now learning how to handle certain things on my own can be difficult. Obviously, that comes with being an adult, but I don’t believe that everyone has the same experience. I have met women who have been independent since they were young, and others who are just like me, learning to navigate the growth of independence. It is important to stop trying to attach and depend on everyone to come and save you in this process. The only person who will never leave your side and guide you toward healing is YOURSELF. You are not broken, you are becoming.

Many people in the world struggle with this, and it’s okay not to have everything figured out, especially in your twenties! On this journey, I believe you should write down and be direct with yourself on what you feel like you should work on. Many of the things you list may not be a quick fix, but taking small steps to learn for yourself can be extremely beneficial.

I’m learning this myself, and I’m excited to see where I'll be when I reach that level of comfort. Growth is uncomfortable!